The same story repeats with every man. Why?

A repeated ending is worth looking at closely, but it does not prove that every person was the same or that you caused the outcome. The useful comparison is a sequence of events: what was agreed, what changed and what you did next.

One point in that sequence may be something you want to handle differently, such as asking about an unclear plan earlier. That is a concrete choice; it does not require inventing a childhood explanation or forcing yourself to like someone different.